Q: It's just the third week of classes, and my preceptor hates me already! What can I do to get on her good side?
A: First, unless you did something truly heinous in the first two weeks, your preceptor doesn't hate you. She has dozens of other students, courses of her own and a dissertation to write. If she remembers your name at this point, she's ahead of the game.
I will say, though, that I hate you a little, and my only contact with you is two whiny sentences. There's a type of kid we all knew freshman year. A superstar in high school, supported by way-too-involved parents, he's amazed when he arrives at college and his teachers don't treat his every emission as The Most Brilliant Thing Ever. What he interprets as "hate" is probably just a mild suggestion that he should think something through more. Nobody likes that kid. Don't be that kid.
Get on your preceptor's good side by being a good student. Do the reading, participate. Write papers that don't make us want to claw our eyes out. Acknowledge that, in this tiny area of academia, we probably know more than you and can teach you something if you let us. Crazy stuff, I know, but it really does work.
"Ask a Grad Student" is written by a Ph.D. student. He remains anonymous because, while he really does hate that kid, he doesn't want to run into him on a dark stretch of Prospect.
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